It’s that time again…time to reset my internal Feng Shui. I feel it in my bones as I sit at my desk—exhausted from launching a health-tech startup, juggling multiple clients, my patience worn thin, and annoyed by anything and anyone that feels between me and success. You probably know the feeling -- driving forward and not gaining ground, exhausted and overwhelmed, things breaking down everywhere you turn. When I feel this, I know it’s time to reset.
When success feels out of reach, or the process gets messy or delayed, I notice a familiar pattern—I slip into doubt and scarcity. The old story creeps in: Maybe I won’t get what I’m working so hard for. Maybe I’m not doing enough. Maybe none of this is right. I begin questioning everything. In the past, I’ve powered through moments like this with sheer grit and determination, often leaning heavily on my more forceful, masculine side to push forward. But I’ve learned that nothing truly good or lasting is born from fear. Creation rooted in scarcity may produce results, but it rarely brings fulfillment.
When this experience arises, my default is to double down, push harder, narrow my focus, cut off from higher guidance, and lose sight of what I’m doing to myself and others. I know this pattern well. I call it my ‘striving and driving’ persona. When this becomes my operating mode, it never works and usually pisses people off around me. These days, I’m quick to notice when the scent of this persona first arrives. And I take a time out to rebalance and orient myself toward what I’m really here for.
Recently at work, I noticed this persona arising as I witnessed us not making our development deadlines, a key investor backed out, and our sales team was attracting the wrong prospects. I found myself frustrated, impatient, and concerned about our ability to launch the company. My initial response was to encourage everyone to push harder, I pushed myself, and started directing vs. watching or asking what our next steps ought to be. I tend to take the lead in what I perceive as chaos or unsafe situations. While well intended toward our mutual success, I was not showing up as my best self.
Conscious Centered Creation® is a methodology I developed to help align action with inner wisdom. At its core, it’s about creating—whether in work, life, or relationships—from a grounded, centered, and expanded state of being.
Rather than reacting to what’s happening around you or trying to control every outcome, this system invites you to co-create with life itself. It integrates both the energetic and the practical: using intention, presence, and inner alignment as the foundation, while staying open and attuned to timing, guidance, and momentum as it naturally unfolds.
It draws on the feminine qualities of receptivity, intuition, and flow, balanced with the clarity, structure, and direction of the masculine. When both are in harmony, you move forward with more trust, grace, and power.
Intention and presence brings a state of beingness to the art of doingness. This ‘being’ state of manifesting can sometimes feel passive when we are programmed to ‘do’ or ‘take action’ in order to make things happen. Using this strategy, I’ve experienced creating with more ease and attaining more fulfilment with the things I can create. Don’t get me wrong, I can certainly default into my old patterns of ‘striving and driving’ when things seemingly aren’t moving fast enough, I just recognize more quickly when I do and return to resetting my internal Feng Shui.
You may have heard the term Feng Shui used to describe the flow and harmony of a physical space, like a room or home. I think of internal Feng Shui as the spacious, aligned state we cultivate within ourselves. It’s the inner sense of clarity and coherence—how open my mind feels, how grounded my body is, and how attuned my spirit is to my core values in any given moment. This is the state that Conscious Centered Creation® helps me create.
Part of returning to my inner Feng Shui is to reflect on the core drivers or reasons I was experiencing imbalance. I asked myself, "What's the rush?” “Why get all upset?”
The answer to this question was… ‘I want it now.’ I feel ready for a big breakthrough—a home run in work, wealth, and love. I see myself stepping up to the plate ready to swing hard to knock it out of the park. What matters most, however, isn’t the big hit—it’s staying present with my swing: the flow, making intentional contact, and the follow through. The journey to achieving the grand slam vs. the focus on needing to have the grand slam. It’s about BEING in the energy of creation vs. attached to the outcome I want to create.
This dance between ‘pushing’ and ‘softening’ IS the dance between our masculine and feminine. We ALL have both and both are good, and needed. The key is noticing what energy is leading and what is most needed to meet the moment. How we understand and balance these attributes in our own internal worlds allows us to create more harmony and balance in our outer worlds.
Examples of masculine aspects at work:
Goal Orientation: Focused on targets, outcomes, and achievement
Decisiveness: Making quick, firm decisions, often with confidence and authority
Action-Driven: Prioritizing doing over being; valuing productivity and results
Competition: Motivated by winning, outperforming, and measurable success
Hierarchy & Control: Clear roles, top-down leadership, centralized decision-making
Assertiveness: Direct communication, clear boundaries, and strong opinions
Examples of feminine aspects at work:
Collaboration: Prioritizing teamwork, connection, and shared success
Intuition: Trusting inner knowing and emotional intelligence
Creativity: Embracing innovation, imagination, and new perspectives
Empathy: Listening with care and understanding others’ experiences
Flexibility: Adapting to change with openness and ease
Inclusivity: Creating space for diverse voices and perspectives
Nurturing: Supporting the growth and well-being of others
Patience: Allowing processes to unfold without rushing outcomes
Process Orientation: Valuing the how, not just the what
When we create from too much push, we may achieve—but often at the cost of well-being. When we create from too much receptivity, we can become passive and stagnant. The key is to integrate the masculine and feminine. As outlined above, ALL aspects of both are important and essential to growth and business success. The real power is in knowing when to draw on each, so that we align with our life and business natural rhythms.
Feeling Out of Balance?
Here are some ways to reset your internal Feng Shui.When life starts to feel hard, heavy, or off-track, our instinct is often to push harder, to double down. And sometimes, that works—for a while. But eventually, resistance builds until you're forced to pause, gain fresh perspective, and find your way back to ease and flow.
Each of us develops our own ways of restoring balance. If you find yourself pushing too hard, here are a few ways to reset and realign:
1. Stop and Notice.
First, recognize that you're in resistance. Change your physical position—get up from your chair, go for a short walk, take a deep breath. Begin by simply noticing what’s going on in your body and mind. What are you feeling? What are you experiencing? Awareness is the first step to rebalancing.
2. Shift from Thinking to Feeling.
Move from your “thinking brain” into your “feeling brain”—your heart. The heart carries immense wisdom, but it needs stillness to be heard. In fact, the heart sends more signals to the brain than the brain does to the heart. Creating quiet space gives that inner voice room to speak.
3. Use the STOP - ASK - LISTEN Method.
Find a quiet place, carve out solitude, and ask yourself:
What do I need to know?
What is this trying to show me?
What am I really trying to solve for?
What do I truly need?
Then listen. Let the answers come from within.
4. Change your Scenery.
Sometimes a simple shift in your environment can reset your energy. Go for a walk, write in a journal, spend time in nature, or do something nurturing—like visiting a new grocery store, buying fresh flowers, or cooking a nourishing meal. These small acts calm the nervous system and restore perspective.
5. Trust the Process.
Loosen your grip on the outcome. Open to guidance through prayer, meditation, or quiet reflection. Ask:
What would it look like to let this be easier?
How can I nurture this process, rather than drive it?
6. Allow Support.
Give yourself permission to slow down, receive help, and lean into collaboration. You don’t have to do it all alone.
7. Reach out to me to learn more about Conscious Centered Creation® or want coaching to support your return to balance in your own life, email me at Christine@cofinityconsulting.com.
These small, yet powerful shifts help you return to a place of alignment—where your actions come from connection rather than fear, and creation flows with ease instead of force.
How might you use awareness to notice which energy you’re creating and leading - either at work or at home? How might you respond when you feel resistance on your path?
This time, I helped solve our work challenges by simply shining light on the opportunities to improve and then backing off; trusting others will step in with answers and clear the issue. This is exactly what happened.
Turning toward stillness and discovering what is driving the feeling of imbalance usually surfaces a belief that is untrue. When I become aware of what is driving the uneasiness, challenge its validity, it usually calms. And then, I can then return toward my higher intention.
I’m writing a book called, The New Face of Human Power: Balancing the Feminine and Masculine for New Leadership, Relationships, and World. Part of the journey of writing this book is to explore the topics of feminine and masculine balance in my own life, including how they show up at work and in relationships.